The 8 Archetypes:
Dysfunctional Communication Patterns
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The Avoider
Ā Avoiders tend to...surprise...avoid conflict and difficult conversations at all costs. You might try to change the subject, remain silent, or agree just to keep the peace. Yes, even if it means not expressing your true feelings. Sadly, you end up not getting what you actually need and perhaps even become content with that reality.
TheĀ Dominator
You tend to dominate conversations, often interrupting or talking over others. You may be more focused on being right or winning an argument rather than understanding the other person's perspective. And I know I don't have to tell you the damage this can do to a relationship.
TheĀ Pleaser
Always wanting to make others happy, the Pleaser often suppresses their own opinions and feelings. You often struggle to say no and tend to prioritize others' needs over your own. The side-effect? This can lead to resentment and a lack of authentic communication...which lead to you betraying yourself in the the end.
The Analyzer
Analyzers get caught up in all the details and logic, forgetting there's a human being on the other end of the conversation. Which means you often miss the emotional aspects of interpersonal communication. Others might perceive you as cold or unemotional, making it a struggle to connect on a deeper emotional level.Ā
TheĀ Emotional Reactor
These folksĀ are highly sensitive to criticism or perceived slights. You often put your foot in your mouth, speaking before you think. Oops! Typically, emotional reactors respond while they are in the thick of their emotions, which can unnecessarily escalate conflicts and hinder effective communication.Ā
TheĀ Guilt Tripper
Oh guilt trippers, sometimes you don't even know you are doing it. Guilt Trippers tend to remind others of past mistakes or play the victim to gain sympathy or compliance. But what's really behind the guilt-tripping? What does the guilt-tripper really want?
TheĀ Mind Reader
Mind Readers expect others to know their thoughts and feelings without expressing them. You get frustrated when others donāt meet your uncommunicated expectations. If someone "really loves you" or knows you, they should know what you need and how you feel, right?Ā
TheĀ Stonewaller
When overwhelmed or disinterested, the Stonewaller shuts down communication. You may find yourself resorting to one-word answers or silence during intense interactions. Unfortunately, this can be perceived as dismissive or uncaring by others...even if that's not your intention.Ā
