how i got here—
Short Edited Version
Born and raised in Southern California, my first-generation parents set me up for the “American Dream.” At an early age, academia became a focus for upward mobility and success. Finishing my graduate program in my early twenties, I was ready to take on a career in marketing and event planning in Los Angeles. However, the “American Dream” I had worked so hard to achieve began falling apart. From getting laid off to having to defer my student loans, rock bottom became an unplanned destination as I battled mental health issues.
I found myself living back in my childhood bedroom. Back at my old college job. Back at the place I fought so hard to leave. I did "everything right." I checked all the boxes I was told to check...ever since I was a kid. Then I started questioning everything and asking myself the hard questions. Who am I? What do I want to do with my life? What's important to me?
This is when my spiritual awakening really began. I read every possible self-help book, became a Reiki practitioner, and started learning about this thing called "mindfulness."
Becoming a teacher and establishing a career in higher education was the last place I ever imagined myself to be. But I enjoyed teaching young adults how to communicate in their interpersonal relationships, it was rewarding.
Leaving Academia
In 2016, I began venturing outside academia by stepping on the TEDx stage, inviting the audience to question their societal conditioning around happiness and success. In 2018, I founded the “Mindless to Mindful,” to teach busy professionals how to integrate mindfulness into their mindset, communication, and relationships so they can live in more alignment. Since then I have been invited to speak on stages for conferences, corporations, and universities.
Why I Do This Work
We are often taught how to make a living but not how to build a life. As a result, we often get caught up in the “doing” of life and unsure of how to “be” in our lives. We have become “human-doings” not “human-beings.” We are taught to look outward for answers, not inward.
Somewhere along the way we learned how to disconnect from ourselves in order to survive. As humans, we are literally hard wired for connection, but when we get hurt, we armor up, and do what we need to "survive." This disconnect prevents us from expressing our emotions in our relationships and with ourselves. It creates a lonely and limiting life. My mission is to help people reconnect their mind, body, and soul through mindful communication.
The Messy, Unedited Version
I despised vulnerability & mindfulness...
Feelings? What are those? Meditation? Yeah, that doesn't work. Vulnerability? That's for the weak. If you had told me I’d be teaching people mindful communication... I would have laughed in your face because I used to:
- Repress my emotions
- Portray an image of “always fine”
- Blame others when things went wrong (never apologize)
- Hide behind my achievements
And while this armor kept me “safe” it also kept me from having meaningful relationships. Since childhood, I learned how to shut off from my emotions. My family didn’t talk about feelings. We fought, we yelled, and then we pretended like it didn’t happen. I learned that expressing emotions was unsafe and vulnerability was a weakness.
Then one day, (before we were married) my wife and I got into a HUGE argument right before bed. I refused to apologize because I was right and she was wrong. So I grabbed my pillow and slept on the couch. We had a rule about “never going to bed angry.” But that night, I didn’t honor it. A few days later, I was at a family event and watched two family members turn a small disagreement into an unnecessary, huge fight. Just like the one that had happened between my wife and me. No longer could I deny that I was repeating the same dysfunctional patterns I saw in my childhood in my own household.
That was the day I realized I didn’t want this for my relationship or my friendships. I didn’t want to continue the dysfunctional patterns and generational trauma that had been passed down to me.
And that's where the work really began. I had dabbled here and there with a self-help book, an inspiring podcast, an episode of Oprah's SuperSoul Sunday. But I hadn't committed myself to the deep-rooted work. So I dove in head-first...
- I went to therapy (which I used to think was only for people who had something "wrong" with them)
- I took yoga classes
- I learned about energy work
- I tried meditating again (for the 1,000th time)
- I read books, lots of books
- I went to events to meet like-minded people
- I learned about somatic movement
- I tried breathwork
This took me YEARS upon YEARS to learn and integrate it into my life.
Let me save you lots of time and help you break free from outworn family cycles, generational trauma, and all the crap that isn't even yours to begin with! All of it is keeping you from transforming your life into something beyond what you ever thought was possible. Relationships that are safe, authentic, and meaningful! A deep-seated trust in yourself that is unshakeable, so that no matter what life throws your way, you'll have an inner compass to guide you forward.
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Fun Facts About Me...
- I absolutely love traveling to different countries and learning about new cultures.
- There is something about outer space I find fascinating. I love staring up at the night sky on a clear night.
- Nature is my favorite place to go when I need to recharge. Preferring the mountains and forest for hikes.
- Libraries are one of my favorite places to sit and get creative work done. The books give me superpowers.
- I love cinematography and film scores - there's something magical about how movies are made.
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